Meaning my yard. I have successfully cut down 6 trees that were growing where they shouldn’t. Not to mention pulling a virtual forest of maple trees out of my garden. The sad part is I love maples. I’d like to ditch that ugly tree in my yard and have a maple instead. I’ve spent days [...]
I’ve repeated my DBT class several times and here I am off the rails again. How the heck do I regulate my emotions!? Well, the answer is clearly that I don’t. This is out of order in the class but I needed a quick refresher course.
Understand Emotions You Experience
Identify your emotion. Okay, that would be [...]
On my journey through this 13 year depression, which I saw no hope of ever coming back from, I have made huge progress. Sometimes you backslide again, and that old hopeless feeling hits. That is the worst part, that when you are in that place, you can see no hope, no surety that this is [...]
I love this song and I love it even more when played with bagpipes. I want it played at my funeral.
Goals of interpersonal effectiveness
Objectives Effectiveness
Getting your objectives or goals in a situation
Obtaining your legitimate rights
Getting another to do something
Refusing an unwanted or unreasonable request
Resolving an interpersonal conflict
Getting your opinion or point of view taken seriously
Questions
1. What specific results or changes do I want from this interaction?
2. What do I have to do to get results? [...]
I’m still having it. Three days now. I absolutely refuse to buy my dear Maxalt if I have to charge it. I’ll never get out of the hole at this rate. I felt so bad last night I thought about driving myself to the E.R. but geez, I felt too sick to do that. I’ve [...]
Situations for Interpersonal Effectiveness
Attending to Relationships
Don’t let hurts and problems build up.
Use relationship skills to head off problems.
End hopeless relationships.
Resolve conflicts before they get overwhelming.
Balancing Priorities vs. Demands
If overwhelmed, reduce or put off low-priority demands.
Ask others for help; say no when necessary.
If not enough to do, try to create some structure and responsibilities; offer to [...]
I’m not so good at begging for money but I thought oh, what the hell Wanted to see how it works and since I really do need a furnace by winter and have no clue how I’m going to afford one…I’m aiming for 5000 generous souls to contribute $1 each. I have a long [...]
